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My Bloody Valentine
I never realized there were so many people out there who don't like and/or don't celebrate Valentines day. It's not that Honey doesn't like Valentines day, he feels that if you love someone it would be better to declare that feeling daily instead of on one particular day a year. Which makes me a lucky girl since he loves me everyday. But it also makes me sad that there are people out there who have trouble expressing feelings of love.
Now I don't want to give everyone the impression that Honey gives me a box of heart shaped chocolates, roses, or diamond necklaces every day. That isn't what he means by declaring his love daily. And what kind of a person needs that kind of stuff (or calories) to feel loved daily. Isn't love more than stuff? For me, it's the way he walks by with a load of folded laundry as he reaches out in passing running his hand down my arm. Trust me, just his doing my laundry gives me shivers in a good way before he even touches me. The way he catches my eye and winks at me while having a conversation with friends. It's those intimate connections that you have with each other throughout the days and months and years.
My cynical girlfriend hates Valentines Day. Her rational is that it was a Hallmark holiday to sell cards that degenerated into a way for men to swap candy, flowers, and jewelry for sex. Is that really all it's about?
I like Valentines day. I like the way you have something to look forward to after the post Christmas depression. I like the thought that little boys can shyly approach little girls to show their feelings in a positive way by giving a card or piece of candy instead of taking the violent approach of slapping her on the playground and hoping she'll chase you around crying that she'll get you. I like the warm feelings of love when we have had to live through freezing temps and drifting snow. I just like happy, fluffy, warm and fuzzy love.
Honey says he would rather celebrate Friday the 13th than Valentines day. I will accomodate him because I can love him everyday of the year. I'll get him some chocolate and a card for tomorrow. Tonight I'll make him the crab stuffed Tillapia then chase him around the house with the chain saw (electric and unplugged) yelling, "I love you to pieces!"
So are you in the Pro Valentine or Con Valentine camp? Share feelings
I'm in the same Valentine's boat you are in! Husband feels love should be
expressed everyday, not one day a year. I agree and appreciate that,
however, I do like a day set aside for a little extra.
As a celibate spectator to affairs of the heart I have on occasion given
anonymous cards or a box of chocolates to unattached young women who are my
platonic friends so they don't feel left out. Mainly because I like to see
the pleased but puzzled looks on their faces from the unexpected surprise.
I've always been fairly ambivalent about the holiday. Through most of my
school-aged days, I was never dating anyone on Valentine's, so it just felt
like a holiday designed to piss on single people. Now that I'm married, I
don't mind the holiday, and I suppose it's nice to have a holiday devoted
to love and lust, but I don't get really into it either. The ways we treat
one another daily is far more important.
As your daughter pointed out (when I poo-poohed the day), it does have
history behind it and St. Valentine? Not like Sweetest Day which was
recently manufactured and unrecognized in many states. It's fun to observe
when you're one of a couple, otherwise it slips quietly by. I received
chocolates from the kids. They received breakfast at the pig farm from me.
I do put a Valentine themed wreath on the front door and, in March, it is
replaced by a St. Patricks Day shamrock wreath. April gets eggs, May &
June gets spring flowers, July gets red/white/blue, etc. etc. Carpe Diem!
I feel ambivalent about Valentine's Day. On the one hand it is nice to have
a day to make a point of celebrating your relationship; on the other it is
horribly over-hyped, and clearly a way for chocolate and card manufacturers
to keep sales up between the Christmas and Easter peaks.
I'm one of those who shows love everyday, and it is in the little things
you do for each other and how you mix the playful and the serious. The
lucky part for me is that my Lady and I are on the same page about these
things.